tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315722043122184468.post2702514281918849655..comments2023-11-03T05:54:23.164-07:00Comments on What to Expect When You're NOT Expecting: Wondering What My Balance IsDebbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08741422504006590216noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315722043122184468.post-90400165119954694892010-05-14T02:58:30.993-07:002010-05-14T02:58:30.993-07:00Pretty good post. I just came by your blog and wan...Pretty good post. I just came by your blog and wanted to say that I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog posts.<br />In any case I’ll be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again soon!Tava Teahttp://www.buydietpills24.com/tava-tea.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315722043122184468.post-5811791184926388102010-05-13T12:28:30.030-07:002010-05-13T12:28:30.030-07:00I think you'll know a lot more about what you ...I think you'll know a lot more about what you want to (and can) do once you have him. I was totally fine working with one kid and miserable working once I had Abe. And you know I trusted who was watching him with all my heart!! :) When I was teaching, I felt like there were too many days when I gave my kids my leftovers. As for the financial, I didn't think we'd be able to make it work but we have. Less $ spent on lunches out, Starbucks, and of course childcare. We spend much less now than we did when I was working but our lives are very happy... for us a lot of this just comes down to budgeting and knowing where our money is going. But this is only what was right for ME and my family. What's right for YOU could be totally different. Don't second guess your decisions - mommy guilt stinks and you are an amazing mom!jill bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15796153694986208805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315722043122184468.post-26873002145863812332010-05-13T07:42:02.068-07:002010-05-13T07:42:02.068-07:00The above comment was so long that I wanted to lea...The above comment was so long that I wanted to leave a separate one for the sleep stuff.<br /><br />I read the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth and LOVED it. So, I would recommend that book, as it really explains the science behind sleep patterns (but in an easy to understand way) and has a variety of methods to handle problems that come up (there is no YOU MUST DO IT THIS WAY OR ELSE to this book).<br /><br />http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habits-Happy-Child/dp/0449004023<br /><br />But also, THIS website talks about sleep regressions and what you can (and mostly can't) do about them.<br /><br />http://moxie.blogs.com/askmoxie/2006/02/qa_what_are_sle.html<br /><br />These were my two mainstays. Hope it helps!Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08961948894847619115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315722043122184468.post-50023631987433315862010-05-13T07:36:40.952-07:002010-05-13T07:36:40.952-07:00As you know, I do stay at home, and I often worry ...As you know, I do stay at home, and I often worry so much about other things. I worry if I am projecting a good image to my son and daughter of what women CAN do. I made the choice to stay home, but it's not for everyone, and I want to make sure they know that they have more options. I worry if I will even be able to FIND a good job when I am ready to go back. And some days, I worry that I will lose my ever loving mind if I have to read "Goodnight Moon" one more time! :)<br /><br />I will say this, though, don't judge being a SAHM on staying home with a sick kiddo! Will and I are stuck home right now and it is NOT fun. It wasn't so bad for a day or two while he was feeling really sick, but now he is feeling better, but still dripping snot and I don't want to expose others, so I feel trapped. When we can go out and have fun, the days go by much faster. I told M that I guess I am not much of a stay at HOME SAHM - LOL!<br /><br />Anyway, I think there are good parts to both paths. I think Mommy Guilt is a universal b!tch that gets all of us, no matter what choices we make. We always wonder about the "path not taken" and worry about the choices we have made and will make and how they will affect our kids. <br /><br />If I had a good situation like yours, with onsite daycare, I would have at least tried going back to work. Unfortunately, my job required lots of travel and late nights, and I would have been all over the state on any given day. I pretty much NEVER would have seen Will M - F (and many Sundays when I was traveling), so it just didn't make sense. <br /><br />In any case, hugs to you. This mommy thing is tough, and it's so hard to know what the right decisions are. . . I know when I see a working mom kicking @ss and taking names like you are (and getting to take their kids on amazing vacations that we can't afford right now), I think, "Gee, maybe I should have gone back." It never ends! :)Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08961948894847619115noreply@blogger.com